Do Things Together: Save Your Marriage And Have Spiritual Moments With God!
Posted: Tuesday, January 24, 2012
by Bob Alexander
http://www.bluemarlinbob.com
My wife gave me a look that spoke volumes and whispered loudly for me to wake up! With as much self-respect I could muster I said I was not sleeping but was having a spiritual moment with God. Rolling her eyes, she returned her attention to the Sunday sermon at hand.
This is just one of the things that we as a couple have experienced together and it seems to be working. I detect a little pride when my wife rolls her eyes. Because we were determined to make this marriage work, we planned activities that would involve the both of us. We looked at things that we both could enjoy and came up with nothing, so we decided to do that which each of us thought less offensive. It seems to work because we have a great marriage.
I felt like I was doing my part in working on our marriage, even though I would have preferred doing something else. Really, what real man actually wants to communicate about feelings with his wife? I was feeling proud of myself for being such an understanding husband.
The next weekend that looked like the weather was going to be nice, my wife volunteered to go with me on my weekend fishing trip. This was ideal for I had gone fishing by myself so long I was carry on a conversation with myself while I fished. To her credit she awoke before daylight without a negative word about it being too early for people to be greeting the morning.
It was a beautiful day for fishing, soft little marshmallow clouds leaving their footprints on the glass like surface of a calm lake. I knew she cared little for an outing on the lake, but she endured the outdoors because we had agreed to share our activities with each other.
Marriage relationships need work to be fruitful. There might not be a place for a night out with the boys, so the husband has to give it up. That’s not to say that he must attend her weekly quilting party. It’s much better to agree with your spouse on the things you both want to do together.
Now comes the part about going to church with each other. Any successful marriage involves a lot of give and take between partners. I think church attendance is a must because you are bound to make friends of some of those in the congregation. That puts pressure on each of you to make life together just as good your friends think it is.
I learned on Sunday that my wife is more attuned to me to me than I had thought. She seems to know intuitively when I am nodding off in church. Then she jabs me in the side with her elbow to rudely bring me back to life.
One Sunday I went alone to church because she was sick with a cold. When the preaching started, I only shut my eyes once to rest them for a moment. My wife wasn’t there to jolt me awake, so I sat there blissfully asleep until the congregation got up to leave.
If there is a point to all this it is that marriage works if you make it work. I just hope I didn’t snore.
Bob Alexander is a son of the south. Besides having great knowledge in the workings of the female mind, he has gained expert status in eating barbeque, telling fishing stories and leisure living.
Visit his site at: www.redfishbob.com
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Top-level comments on this article: (2 total)Bless you, Bob. Frank as can be. I laughed at " so I sat there blissfully asleep until the congregation got up to leave " when wife wasn't there in church. lol.lol.
Thank you for sharing your story. I agreed that a man should do that much (like you) enough to make the wife happy. What more does she want ?Thanks Hilda, I'm glad you liked it. I had a 30 minute private word with God and yes, I did snore. Just a little.
Very well said, Bob. I couldn't agree more. Give and take will make any marriage work. Actually you are more likely to have a spiritual moment with God while asleep!
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